Nirbhaya - Beyond The TRP's

Disclaimer: Park your emotions before you start reading this. Some amount of EQ and IQ is needed to understand crime and its counters. 

Foreword:

If we have to find a solution to this menace of sexual abuse, we have to look at the crime from a perspective beyond that which is shown to us for gaining TRP's. This article will contradict in many ways what the media has shown you so far. It will be your achievement if you can read this write up and understand where we are going wrong.

THE CAUSE

With the TRP's that the Nirbhaya case received, the amount of candles burnt, the number of articles written, the number of talk shows conducted, the amount of air time used, we should have gotten somewhere in terms of reducing abuse against women. On the contrary, on the 4th anniversary of this case we had 2 rapes (1 gang rape, unreported not known) in the same city. We also have - 34,000 rapes ‘reported’ in 2015. Unreported could actually be more as we still belong to a society that discourages a victim to go public. Mumbai has seen a rise of over 200% in recent years in crime against women. Delhi still seems like the rape capital.

In this write up, I will be as blunt as anyone can be. I will share with you, what I believe can be a possible immediate solution to this menace.

We can debate what is really causing these statistics to rise at such alarming rate for a few more decades. Just like how we’ve been doing since the last few. Reasons ranging between lack of law enforcement, lack of justice enforcement, corruption, to reasons as ridiculous as girls going out late night and inappropriate dressing. There is no end to this discussion on the cause. This note however is to focus on the solution.

INTRODUCTION

Like cyclones and tornado, crime too comes with early indications. Investigators call them PCI (Pre Crime indicators). Few rapes a year escalating into a hundred rapes everyday didn’t happen overnight. There were, available PEI (Pre Escalation Indicators). However we chose to ignore those PEI’s & PCI's. We won’t be completely wrong if we say - the delay and quality of punishment given to the culprits, IF they were ever caught, was the biggest PEI.

In this article,  I'll denote every PCI with a * and every PEI with a #.

Assuming you take 10 to 15 mins to read this piece of text, there would have been a rape in some part of India in this time. And high possibility that it would have either got silenced or its been turned into a mysterious murder. This must stop right now. I know we all feel that way. But none are willing to do what it takes. We are so used to doing what is easy. And that is - BLAME. We blame the law enforcement, blame the victims, blame the bystanders, blame the criminals, blame the type of food one eats, blame the clothes one wears and everything that has nothing or very little to do with the crime.

This piece is about the truth. Truth from the perspective of someone trained by the best counter crime/terrorism professionals in the world. I can say with utmost accuracy that if what I write don’t make sense to you then nothing else will. You will go back to being a pussy and find a reason to blame things outside of you and lose your control on elements you had control on. In this write-up I will share an insight into how every woman has the opportunity to deter any malicious intent or action that is directed towards her or anyone around her. I will share this by taking an example of a case that caused a nation wide agitation and sensation. The media reported it 24/7 until there was any juice left. This write-up is a postmortem of this case and the mistakes the victim or her accomplice made that resulted in such.

THE CRIME

What if I told you the DGR (Delhi Gang Rape) was a planned affair and not an accident. The victim and her friend meeting at the mall - was planned. Which movie they would watch - was planned. Taking a 3 wheeler to Munirka - was planned. Choosing to get into THAT bus - was planned. The malicious intent of the boys on the bus - was planned. And everything that happened next - was planned. Nope, I’m not speaking of some master plan that god wrote but I speak of a perspective that I need you all to see that will help you understand the purpose of this write-up better.

When I say it was all planned, I’d like to define what a plan is. According to the dictionary the word ‘Plan’ is described in 2 forms:

As a Noun: an intention or decision about what one is going to do.
As per this definition its very clear that what I said above was accurate. It was all a plan.

As a Verb: decide on and make arrangements for in advance.
As per this definition, the word ‘ADVANCE’ doesn’t mention a timeline. So it could be an year before or also could be what it means as a noun. A Decision just before you act.

Looking at the above meaning we know that both the attacker and the victim were part of the plan from their own perspective. They both made plans and somewhere their paths crossed. At this crossing, both had a choice to choose their roles. It is important to acknowledge this to understand the rest of what I'd like to share.

The Crime - Choosing Our Role

All was fine till it was getting late for the girl to get home. 'Repeated calls from home* increased the stakes as she probably didn't share about her whereabouts* with her family nor did she share her challenges* of not being able to find a safe transport. It is usual in our culture that parents get worried. And it is out of love and care. But more often than not - parents tend to force their fear and anxiety onto their kids# while forgetting the fact that they have done nothing to train them to handle such anxiety (a tactical life skill). Neither have they built a foundation for open communication# where the kid feels safe to speak the truth.

Today, if you ask the girls parents if they would have been ok if she reached a little late that night after finding safe transport, they'd probably say yes. Coz now the delay in her getting home is compared to the current reality and the delay sounds and feels much better. So, both the girl and her friend were finding it tough to get her home AS SOON AS POSSIBLE*. While all their efforts to get an auto riksha failed, there approached THAT bus.

In the bus were ONLY 4 guys*. Any sane mind with a girl wouldn't have taken that bus*. Ask Akshay Kumar and he'd tell you he too wouldn't have taken that bus if it was in real life. In an interview ,the girls friend said that he showed resistance but the guys in the bus assured safety*. Now, which criminal would not do that ? When you are alone and powerless + with a girl, how could you even buy such an assurance ? You know you are not someone who is trained to fight or even have the courage to die fighting*. But he bought it. I'm assuming that the girl didn't speak at that point as she was already affected enough with the PEI's (repeated calls from home). I'm dead sure that the victim did feel that it was a mistake to get onto THE bus. Research proves that women are naturally talented and gifted to have a strong intuition. Something you need to successfully identify PCI's. However most women due to low self confidence ignore their intuition and fall prey to such crime.

PCI's are part of the crime. They always exist. In all crime. They exist in natural disasters too. Man has today designed equipment to identify the PII(Pre Incident Indicators) that come before any disaster. 

I'm sure the bus driver saw these two alone in the bus stop* from a distance. I'm also certain that the 4 did discuss before* the bus decided to stop for these 2. I'm equally certain that they had PLANNED some mischief. There is a possibility that the 4 were, in fact out there with that bus that evening with some crime on their mind. They were probably looking for a lone girl but they got a guy along. And by his initial negotiation* they must have flagged him white (not a threat).

It was this moment when the victim and her friend were standing at the door of this bus, there was a choice at their disposal to become victims or to refuse the ride and live safe. We all know what they chose. But do we know what they felt before they made that choice ? Do we know what the victim's intuition warned her ? I refuse to believe their intuition was absent. I also refuse to believe that they felt safe boarding that bus.

The Crime - Postmortem 

It is very interesting how the media from the beginning, didn't not raise some important questions.

•  Why did the girl not share with her parents her inability to get a safe transport ? Why couldn't she be frank with her parents and tell them that she is safe at that moment and will get home as soon as she finds a safe transport.
•  If you had the money to watch a movie in Select City Mall then why couldn't you afford (jointly) a 200 - 300 bucks auto fare to her home while giving more importance to her safety ?
•  Why did the guy agree to get into that empty bus with 4 guys ?
•  When he refused the first time to board the bus, what convinced him to go against his intuition and decision ?
• What did the attackers say that convinced him that it was safe to travel with them ?
•  Why did he not try to kill at least one ? Or what injuries did he inflict onto the attackers ? (Anger can cause a massive power rush even in a half dead man) If he lived to tell the tale he probably wasn't injured enough or lacked personal will to fight back in spite of pain.

These questions are quite aggressive towards the victim and her friend and completely contrary to questions that could generate TRP. If the above questions were asked back then by the media, we wouldn't have had another rape today in the same city where - a girl was offered a lift by a cab guy and she readily agreed and got raped. I'm sure she too was reluctant and the cab driver sold (just like the 4 guys did) his trust.

What does it take for a woman to trust a stranger ? How long ? What proof does she look for to be able to trust him ? Would it be ridiculous to call 100 and tell the cops that she is alone at a particular location and she is scared and not finding transport ? Our Police is not so insensitive to ignore such calls. 

The Solution Perspective

I need you, the reader to understand this from a non emotional perspective. We will never find the root cause and a solution if we get emotional about the challenges. While we demand death sentence to these culprits, rapes will not really come down. What we need to do is find that factor which can change the rate at which these crimes take place.

Police and Courts are #PostCrime factors. When we blame them for being slow and nonsensitive we are tell the criminals that - We are still not doing anything that can STOP them from raping our women. When we focus on powering our women with #CounterCrimeTactics we are telling the criminals that - Now you CAN NOT mess with our women. This is a #PreCrime factor. This gives complete control into our hands and hence we control the result.

The Solution 

Take complete ownership of what happens to you. When you have accepted that you are weak and do not know how to protect yourself, take responsibility to find people on Social media or in your community who can help you train and become capable enough to protect yourself. When I say protect I don't just mean learning martial arts and stuff. I mean the mental and tactical know how of how you can avoid a crime and not get into it and then fight your way out.

Deterrence is the greatest tactic against all crime and terrorism, that is least understood and used. 

How to identify a malicious intent early on. How to read PCI and understand PEI. Become more smarter than the criminal. You learn to use your brains to beat his dick. That day, no criminal will ever mess with another girl. That day the police will not have any case to solve. That day we will not have to take out a candle march for a girl and ask the courts for a death sentence.

The Solution is in the hands of every woman who is reading this. Remember an Armored Spirit can never be Raped or Abused ! 

I hope this article gets you to think in the right direction. A direction that helps you realize that the power to stop crime against women lies in the Mind & Spirit of herself and no other place outside. The only solution to this menace is #PersonalSecurityTraining and not #Blaming.

I urge you to get every woman you know to read this and learn from the errors of a fallen spirit. I write this with all grief in remembrance of #Nirbhaya. Lets unite and walk in the direction of Personal Security for all.

Jai Hind

Chakradhari Rowe